You probably know about the little voice you hear at the back of your mind.
But what do you do with that big, bold voice that often drowns every other voice in your head? Well, that’s the ego – and here’s how the ego is ruining your happiness.
Your ego has the power to make you miserable. It can convince you to believe in things that are neither real nor true.
Don’t get me wrong now. Everyone has an ego and that’s not bad. The bad thing is when you get too much of an ego. Or when you start listening to that voice a bit too often.
That’s why I wanted to show you the 5 ways in which your ego may be ruining your life without you even being aware.
Read on to find how the ego is compromising your happiness and what you can do about it!
Do you know what’s the ego?
As I said, your ego is that big, bold voice in your head convincing you that you’re the best. Or the worst, depending on what type of day you’re having.
It’s your mind trying to play tricks on you – and assuring you that happiness lies outside of yourself. That others are responsible for you – and for your life.
It shamelessly uses your deepest fears against you, over and over again – until you budge and listen to it.
Here’s a podcast on YouTube where I talk more about it. You can watch the video to learn more.
Here’s how your ego is ruining your life without YOU even being aware!
1. Your ego makes you think happiness can be bought
It wasn’t until I started my spiritual journey that I realized that I’m not really obsessed with money as much as I’ve thought. My ego was.
I learned the hard way that money can’t buy you happiness. Actually, nothing acquired with money can ever bring you that much-needed feeling of peace and serenity.
So don’t give into the spending urge. Don’t buy things you don’t need.
I’ll be the first one to say that having a career is great but also, take the time to nurture your soul. Prioritize things that matter. Meditate, journal, and practice mindfulness on a daily basis.
2. Your ego kills your personal relationships
Having too much of an ego is one sure way to lose everyone that matters to you. It’s just that it’s easy to start thinking others owe you something when the ego takes over.
Don’t fall into the trap. Connections are good for you! Yes, even when you don’t have any real benefit from hanging out with someone.
Don’t let the ego drown empathy. Instead, try to become more compassionate and caring for the people around you. Seek for deeper connections with everyone. Put yourself out there – and the Universe will respond appropriately.
3. Your ego makes you become overly confident
One of the worst traits of the people who have too much ego is when they have just too much confidence. Those are the type of people who can’t even admit they’re wrong to themselves, let alone to others.
Don’t get me wrong – having confidence is awesome! But thinking that you’re superior to everyone else is definitely not.
No one is perfect. Don’t let the voice in your head trick you into thinking you are.
4. Your ego doesn’t allow you to grow
You know those people who don’t change in years and still stubbornly hold opinions that don’t really serve them? Yeah… that’s their ego doing the talk.
Your ego doesn’t like change – nor does it like to compromise.
The thing is, you can’t grow and improve if your mindset is set on fixed. I say, adopt the growth mindset – be open to new opportunities.
Become more flexible. Hear what other people have to say. Observe what others are doing better than yourself – and learn to improve.
I’m willing to bet you’ll be surprised as to what change you’ll start witnessing in your life.
5. Your ego makes you greedy for more
Don’t get me wrong with this one – it’s great to constantly want to improve and become a better person. It’s good if you have a healthy appetite for life.
The thing is, the ego makes you look at only at one side of the coin. Instead of being grateful for what you have, you end up thinking about the things other people have.
Stop thinking that whatever you have is not enough. Start practicing gratitude and journal if you need to count your blessings. Visualize positive change and let the Universe take care of the rest.
What about you? Has your ego ever ruined something for you? Leave me a comment and let me know – I’d love to hear back from you!