Feeling lonely, yet again? Loneliness is a feeling, not a fact – and you can combat it easily!
Here’s how to deal with loneliness in 7 simple ways!
If only I had a dollar each time I felt lonely.
I remember the first time I moved away to college.
I was alone for the first time in my life. Literally. I spent the whole night staring at the ceiling, profoundly missing my mom and my sister – and wondering how will I make it through college.
But you know what? I did it – and here I am today!
Oh, about my first night in college thing? I can’t imagine myself not living on my own now. Isn’t it weird how our minds change and evolve over time, only if we let them?
But that wasn’t even the worst experience when it comes to feeling lonely.
Wanna know the worst? It’s when you’re surrounded with people who make you feel lonely.
I learned my lesson the hard way.
Ready to never feel lonely again? Here’s how!
1. Know the difference between being alone & lonely
While it’s true that no man is an island, everyone will find themselves alone at a certain time. You’ve started college. You’ve landed a new job. You’ve moved to another city.
All of that is a valid reason to feel lonely! I acknowledge your feelings.
But there’s a big difference between being on your own and feeling like you’re placed somewhere you don’t belong.
You can be in the middle of the crowd and still feel lonely. You can be on your own and have a blast. Remember that it’s not about the quantity of the people you’re surrounding yourself with. It’s all about the quality.
2. Make plans ahead
Making plans ahead is probably one of the best tips I can give you. It works like a charm every single time!
Don’t be tempted to isolate yourself furthermore whenever you’re feeling lonely. You can do better. Do something to fight the feeling.
You don’t have to obsess about having every single minute of your day planned.
However, do take the time to at least outline some activities – and then go about and enjoy them!
3. Reach out to people
Everyone’s busy nowadays. But believe it or not, other people feel lonely too.
Sometimes, people don’t call you because they assume you’re busy – just as you assume they’re busy. When was the last time you called someone and said – Hey, wanna hang out tonight?
Pick up your phone and dial. Make the effort. Don’t get discouraged even if they say no. Call someone else.
4. Spend your free time the healthy way
What do you do in your free time?
If you don’t have a solid answer to this, then you might be doing something wrong.
Go back to the basics. Your free time is to be enjoyed, not to feel lonely.
Leave the house and turn off your phone. Visit places where there are groups of people.
Spend some time hiking on a popular trail. Read a book in the park. Treat yourself to a dinner in a nice restaurant – take yourself on a date.
You’ll feel much more fulfilled and re-energized.
5. Find a hobby
Having a solid hobby you can refer to is helpful out of two reasons.
First, you’ll always have something to do. Second, you’ll acquire a sense of belonging to a certain group of people who have the same interests as you.
Join a book club. Sign up for cooking classes. Maybe even start learning embroidery.
You’ll instantly be connected to a dozen individuals with whom you have at least one passion in common! Who gets to feel lonely then, huh?
6. Ignore what social media has to say
Social media has a way of making you feel even more lonely than you actually are.
Everyone’s out there having fun and here you are, sitting here tapping through Instagram stories.
But honestly now – don’t believe everything you see on social media. Social media is a place where everyone wants to show themselves in their best light.
There are bigger chances someone posts something on a night out with friends rather than whenever they feel depressed, right?
7. Be your own best friend
Don’t feel the need to hang out with someone – anyone, really! – just for the sake of not being alone. As I said, always bear in mind the difference between being alone and feeling lonely.
In fact, people wrong for you have the power to make you feel even lonelier!
If I had to choose now, I’d rather spend time on my own rather than with someone who doesn’t make my soul sing.
Hang out with yourself. Take yourself out on dates. Wonderful things happen when you learn how to enjoy your own company – and the best one of them is never feeling lonely again!
What do you do when you feel lonely?
Drop me a comment down below and tell me your story – I’m a good listener!