Feeling like you’re not getting anywhere fast enough in your life – and you’re in your late teens or early twenties? Just be patient with yourself – here’s how happiness changes with age and over time!
Have I told you I love growing old?
I’m 36 years old and now, I love myself more than I have ever before. Life feels so damn good these days!
But the relationship I had with myself hasn’t always been this positive. For the biggest part of my late teens and early 20’s, I either felt depressed or had to struggle with major confidence issues.
Not much of the bliss of youth older people talk about, huh?
See, the biggest cliché younger people have to hear all the time is that they’re too young to know pain. They’re too young to hurt. Too young to struggle. So I hear you – and you matter.
However, things will get better eventually. And you’ll be happy with yourself – just as I am now.
Follow up with me to see how happiness changes with age – and why sometimes you just need to give yourself some time!
Here’s a video where I talk about the progress I’ve witnessed as time goes by:
Wondering how life gets better as you get older? Here’s how!
1) You start caring less for things that don’t matter
There’s a fine line between things that matter in life and things that don’t matter.
Unfortunately, the modern world has a liking for accentuating more the things that don’t.
Your clothes. Your looks. Your hair. Your bra size. Your social media followers.
As time goes by, you realize that there’s no need to waste precious energy on trivial matters. It’s okay if you have a bad hair day – and it’s completely okay if you don’t want to spend money on clothes.
Your focus shifts from quantity – to quality. And you magically start caring less.
2) You no longer feel the need to be accepted by everyone
While in high school, I literally spent days worrying what other people thought about me. I wanted to fit in so bad, even if it meant changing who I am and what my values are.
After all, everyone wants to be accepted by others.
But do you know what’s the number one revelation I had in life?
Not everyone has to like you. Seriously now – even you don’t like everyone.
Don’t hang out with people you don’t like. Don’t wear clothes you don’t like. Don’t be someone you’re not.
Be yourself – because there are people who will like you just the way you are!
3) You become more confident
One of my biggest aspirations is to help more young girls realize that they have what it takes to be more confident right away.
Let me say this out loud: real confidence comes from within.
Learn from my mistakes – don’t wait for 36 years to pass to be comfortable in your own skin.
Don’t let the opinion of others shape the opinion you have about yourself. Get back the control over your feelings of self-esteem. You can be whoever and whatever you want to be – as long as you’re happy with your choices!
4) Everyone is self-conscious about something
Every single person on the planet has some weaknesses. Everyone is self-conscious about something – even if you can’t tell what that something is.
But do you know what the wisest people I’ve met do? They fully embrace their weaknesses!
I’ve always been petrified of the fact that sometimes, I’m slurring my words when I talk. So what did I start doing? I started recording videos on YouTube!
And you know what? I bet that no one has even noticed this before I said it out loud now!
5) You put yourself & your needs first
As I said, everyone wants to fit in. And in an attempt to fit in, you try and please everyone else.
But as time goes on, you realize this is emotionally exhausting. You can’t please everyone – even if you wanted to.
You & your needs come first. Do whatever it takes to protect your energy and your confidence.
Oh, and this isn’t selfish. Taking care of yourself first is never selfish. Even emergency landing instructions in airplanes have the same written down: help yourself first so you can help others.
6) You realize life’s too short to be anything but happy
Sometimes, I feel like my life is moving at a warp speed.
One day you’re on your high school graduation – and then you blink. Next thing you know, you’re thirty-something and trying to figure out why on hell you’re not content with your life.
And you know what? I realized life’s too short to be anything but happy. It’s that simple – life’s too short to worry about things that don’t matter (see no. 1)
So do know that whatever you’re struggling with right now, probably won’t matter 10 or 15 years down the line.
Happiness changes and evolves over time – and do your best to enjoy every single moment of your life.
When I was in my late teens, I always admired strong, independent women – and I wanted to be exactly like them!
What type of women do you admire? How do you imagine yourself in the future?
Share with me in the comments and let me know!